In our first Connecting Conversation we focused on Move 2 in the TANGO and two essential anchors—the 5 Elements of Emotion (M. Arnold) and, relatedly, TEMPO (G. Faller)—that help us to guide our couples through their moves in the TANGO. When we’re struggling to get back in balance or we need to help our clients get back into the TANGO—these anchors help us to slow things down and organize what’s happening in the negative cycle and in the session. Move 2 is the most important move in the TANGO because it 1) gets to each partner’s moves in the negative cycle, 2) gets to what’s underneath the cycle, 3) gets to the reframe and 4) gets to the enactment. It also allows us to slow things down which is critical as we guide our clients to touch core emotion.
We got to watch tape, practice in role plays to guide a client through the 5 elements of emotion and come back to the larger group to process our role play experience and further explore all things Move 2. Folks attending also got an unofficial acronym for the TANGO—because we are all about acronyms-- and they help! As well as a newly created acronym for the 5 Elements of Emotion—more acronyms to come!